I’m wondering if there is one of those “Anonymous” groups out there for “Fixers”…
You know like AA -Alcoholics Anonymous?
If not..someone should probably start one, because I think I need to join.
Hi, My name is Angel..
And I am a “Fixer.”
I have this thing about me where if I see someone in pain, hurt, struggling etc..
It’s like I have an imaginary cape that comes out of nowhere..
And I take on the responsibility of “helping.”
Well in talking to a good friend yesterday, I learned some things about me that I didn’t realize.
The first thing is what I stated here, that I am a “Fixer”
The next thing is that..I had no Idea..that I was actually doing this!
It’s my natural instinct to want to help, resolve, ease, offer relief.
But in some cases this is not always appropriate.
We are all individuals and what I may be looking at as something “going wrong” in your life
May be completely normal and/or comfortable..for You.
Or even necessary at the time for your own personal growth..if you so choose.
Or you may simply..just not want to talk about it, or deal with it at the time.
I didn’t know this..
My approach to life is to call it like I see it..resolve what I can, learn from the rest..keep what works, get rid of what doesn’t…and keep it moving…and to help other people do the same. <<<Fixing..
But that's Me.
As much as I say it, and thought I had a full grasp of the concept that everyone is Not the same..
I still obviously have some learning to do.
I have to allow people to go at their own pace in their own time..and let things naturally progress..
Instead of trying to "Fix" everything..and everyone around me.
This was a major epiphany that I was able to come to with the kind and understanding words
Of a good friend.
Thanks for being there..for understanding, for being honest, and helping me to grow in the right direction…for letting me be who I needed to be in that moment..and not trying to "fix" me.
In doing so, you allowed me to see what I needed to see..on my own.
If it ain't broke..leave it alone.